THE POWER OF TRUST IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY

“A marriage without trust is as a car without gas, you can stay in it as much as you want, but it won’t go anywhere.” -Anonymous
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. |25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” Gen 2:24 -25.
People cannot be one until they are open to each other LK 12:47 – 48. Every relationship has to be built on trust in other to succeed. Most of the problems in homes today are traceable to distrust. Without trust a healthy marriage or relationship cannot exist.

WHAT IS TRUST?
Trust means a firm belief in the reliability, truth or ability of someone or something. It means to have faith, confidence or hope in someone or something. It also means to  rely on, depend on, bank on, count on, be sure of, be convinced by, or swear by.
Trust is acceptance of the truth of a statement without evidence or investigation. It is firm belief in the character or strength of someone; believe that something is good or correct or a hope that something is true or will happen.  It is believe that someone or something is reliable, good, honest or effective.
Successful marriage is built on trust However, you cannot force your partner to trust you; you can only earn his or her trust. You earn trust through your lifestyle.

THINGS TO NOTE ABOUT TRUST
1. Trust is earned. It is not what you ask, beg or demand for, you earn it through your character and behavior; through the way you live.
2. Trust can be lost. This is the more reason you have to guard it jealously because it can be very costly when it is lost and too difficult to regain. Whatsoever you have to do to keep the trust, please do it.
3. Trust can be built again after it has been lost.
4. Trust is not earned or built in a day but over a period of time.
5. Trust in marriage is mutual.
6. Trust is self procured
REASONS FOR LACK OF TRUST IN MARRIAGE
1. Failure to fulfill promises
2. Disappointments
3. Living suspiciously
4. Changes in attitude
5. Inconsistency in actions, words or relationships
6. Always in wrong environments&company
7. Selfishness
8. Lies & deceit
9. Keeping late nights
SIGNS OF DISTRUST IN MARRIAGE
1. When your partner finds it difficult to entrust money into your hands.
2 When your  partner finds it difficult to make you his /her next of kin.
3. When your  partner keeps monitoring you directly or indirectly
4 When your  partner is uncomfortable when you are alone with the opposite sex.
5. When your  partner is  not free or does not feel secured around you.
6. When your  partner can't take you by your words.
BEST WAYS TO BUILD TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS
●Be open ie have nothing to hide
●Be accountable
●Speak& stanf for the truth always
●Give explanation when required
●Present witnesses to establish the truth
●Grant your partner free access to you , phone , laptop, password etc
BENEFITS OF TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP
●It brings peace, comfort and rest
●Enhances intimacy
●It is key to happiness and a healthy marriage
●It adverts insecurity& divorce
●Promote good communication
HOW TO REBUILD TRUST IN RELATIONSHIP
■Be yourself and be real
■Always accept your mistakes.
■Keep your promises
■Ask your spouse for forgiveness
■Give change a chance
■Don't make reference to past events
■Purpose in your heart to live right.
■Set boundaries in your relationship to prevent a repeat of the same senerio that caused the problem

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